Another Blog written by my Wife Claire
I know I touched briefly on the subject of the thin line between parent/child relationships and you/better half relationships becoming blurry. But really as a cared for disabled person there have been times that the thin line in both of the above relationships has all but disappeared. I know I and am sure many other cared for people come to the point of nearly losing the relationship that should be there. I know I have had let my husband and children do many things for me that I find both embarrassing and ashamed of.
Oh yes I can already hear everyone saying it cannot be that bad but please believe me when I say it is that bad and maybe worse. The feeling of being a burden never leaves you; you try everything possible before asking for help yet again. Having to waken someone through the night to help you is a horrible feeling but one you have to cross. Sometimes when I am feeling lonely I forget that along with caring for me, my better half still has the house work, the shopping, driving every where our children want to go, oops nearly forgot walking the dog, then I phone downstairs and ask for some company just when my better half has finally found five minutes to sit down at last, I feel so angry if I get a huff and hear the words please just let me have a couple of minutes then I will be up. That is when I feel a real bitch and so to try and conquer that I try not to phone down as much.
Then the thin line starts to slightly reappear, my better half comes up more often and we can sit and talk about anything, then my children come up and have hugs and we can talk for ages. That is when suddenly you can realise that there are good points to being ill. Extra time with my other half and children.
So please everyone who is being cared for like I am, take the time to say an extra thank you, so that your loved ones really do know how very much we appreciate everything they do both for us and our family.