Why ???


I am sometimes surprised at why people think I blog.

Recently I was told by a MSP “I have great Sympathy for what you do” This made me wonder if people thought that is why I blog to look for sympathy. Well to clear that up NO I DON’T.”  I have never looked for Sympathy for what I do that’s not the type of person I am  so anyone who thinks that has not been reading my blogs properly.

The whole point of this Blog is to speak up for carers and not seek sympathy for them but more Respect and Understanding. Some people don’t get it and when its an elected representative and a Member of the Scottish Government that in my humble opinion makes it worse. I am not going to Name the MSP as this is not about.

I am not seeking to stand as a candidate for Council, Holyrood or Westminster and have no plans to do so in the for see able future. I have my own political opinion and it is my own. I know that life is not Black and White Neither is it Red verses Blue there are other shades of politics and Football available. However we must also work together and so over the past few years I have spoke to people from all political parties to further the Understanding of Carers in Scotland.

So if you haven’t read this Blog before please read some and hopefully you will have a better understanding of carers and indeed the people they care for.

24 /7 – what it really Means


We live in a world where everyone wants everything and they want it now when was in my twenties you could not Buy Alcohol on a Sunday anywhere other than a pub. Shops didn’t open 24/7. If you wanted to go to a “Mall” you went to the Metro centre in Gateshead. Now we have 24/7 supermarkets in Countless malls in every major City while some of this does make our life that little easier it also kills of things from the past like the corner shop and the High Street.

Now living in the 24/7 age does everyone really understand what that means well to me it is my life being a carer I look after Claire 24/7 when she needs help during the night I am the person helps her. Much like other Carers up and down the whole of the UK and indeed throughout the World. This is the real 24/7 and this Wednesday the 24th July 2013 Co-operative  Group employees up and down the UK will be bringing this to peoples attention by doing events to raise money for the Carers Trust.

I have the pleasure of being a Carers Ambassador this year and have been visiting stores, phoning stores, supporting at events and recently spoke  to a Membership committee to show the important work that carers do.  Here is the presentation I gave –

 

Intro / Slide 1

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Hi everyone.

My name is Michael Grieve and I am a Carers Trust Ambassador.  I am also a Carer for my Disabled Wife.

This year I am helping to support Co-operative staff, members and customers with fund raising for The Carers Trust which is as you know is your chosen charity of the year 2013.

The Charity of the Year Partnership will fund new projects for young adult carers aged between 14 – 25 years.

Many thanks for the opportunity to speak to you today about what I believe will be one of the most exciting things to happen for young adult carers in many years.

We at Carers Trust are privileged to be able to work with you to bring a whole range of new support services and grants to a large group of people who devote a significant part of their life to helping others and who are rarely recognised for what they do.

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But what is a carer? A carer is someone of any age who provides unpaid support to family or friends who could not manage without this help due to illness, disability, mental ill-health or a substance misuse problem.

Caring is a cause on a vast scale – more than 7 million people in the UK, with the number forecast to reach 9 million by 2037 – that’s 1 in 10 of the population who is a carer

Yet, despite the huge size of the issue, it’s a cause that is still very much “hidden” or unrecognised and one that does not evoke the same emotive response you get when you talk about causes such as Alzheimer’s, child cruelty or cancer.

For any one individual, the chances are that they will be a carer at some point during their life. Caring affects us all.

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As I said despite the fact that there are 7m carers in the UK – 1m of which are under 25, caring is still very much a hidden issue with many carers going unnoticed for the support they’re providing and the impact that it has on their lives.

At Carer’s Trust, we don’t believe that caring should be a hidden cause.

As many as 25% provide more than 20 hours of care per week and 12% provide more than 50 hours – this is a huge statistic and one that cannot go unnoticed.

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The impact of caring on anyone is huge, but it is especially noticeable on Young Adult Carers. This year we are raising money to support 20,000 Young Adult Carers so that they are not forgotten, so that they are empowered and equipped with the skills and information they need to transform their lives.

It goes without saying that if somebody is caring for 20 hours a week; this is going to have a huge impact on their life, both mentally and physically.

We know that 68% of Young Adult Carers are bullied – not at school all the time, can’t go out with friends after school – they are easy targets

Because they are not always able to attend school; hospital visits, caring around the clock or simply because when they do go, they get left behind so choose not to go – this can have a huge effect on their education and career opportunities.

Not forgetting the physical implications of caring – if someone is lifting their dad into bed every night, helping their mum down the stairs, this is going to have an impact on their health and we see this time and time again.

What these Young Adult Carers are doing for their loved ones really is fantastic, and this shouldn’t be ignored, but all of these things can lead to social exclusion and isolation which put Young Adult Carers at a huge disadvantage, at Carers Trust  we work to ensure that Young Adult Carers are not ignored or forgotten, that they receive the support they need to live their own lives.

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I would now like to read you a blog extract written by a young adult carer on the Carers Trust website…

Blog extract – I care for my Mum, and I don’t class myself as a carer, more of a shoulder, and a helper, because Mums capable of a lot of things. She doesn’t have a full disability; it’s more of a memory thing. Her accident years ago, before I was born, affected her memory and now she has trouble remembering things, or noticing things, or takes a lot of time to register how to do things, and I’m coped pretty well my entire life, but now that I’m 17, and had trouble with school and now college, it’s getting quite hard to deal with it all.

I love my Mum and she’s like my best friend, but she constantly feels like she fails at everything and I’m just not strong enough anymore to say otherwise, because I do feel like I’ve lost out on having a Mum who is all there, and it’s hard not to want to admit that, especially when there’s nothing she can do to help that. Most days, things are okay, and we both cope with it, but today, again, like a lot of days lately, I just felt like I couldn’t cope, and needed to let it out.

Does anyone have any advice on the kind of things I can do, to stop the depression and anger and stress getting to me? I do card making at times, I wonder if doing that more and say selling them on to people would be a good idea, I’m open to ideas, and any support and help would be great. I don’t want to feel alone anymore…

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Carers Trust is comprised of its Network Partners – Carers centres and Crossroad schemes. We cover the UK and reach 38,000 adult carers each year, 27,000 YAC.

Carers centres; provide info, advice and support. Community consultations and practical help, befriending schemes, breaks away and social and training activities and schemes

Crossroads; provide care in the home, so that carers can take a break. Carer support workers go into the home and provide overnight support, assistance with meals, household duties, personal care etc. whatever the normal carer normally does they will do.

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What will  Carers Trust  being the cooperative’s charity of the year mean for young adult carers?

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Working together, we would like to raise at least £5 million nationally. During the course of 2013, this will involve more than 4000 store and branch visits to more than 110,000 staff.

So far to date we have raised over £1.6Million – meaning we are well on track to reaching our target!

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There is a regional calendar of events available for the North region. These include things like sky dives, fun runs, sponsored walks, half-marathons and mountain climbs.

If you are interested in doing an individual or team challenge or would like to organise your own fundraising event or challenge please contact your regional fundraiser, Terrie Oakshott.

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Upcoming events in the North region include…

  1. The ‘Round the Region Relay’ is a sponsored walk or cycle which we are still looking for teams to take part in. This will involve walking a sponsored section of the North regional boarder and will involve teams from all business divisions. This is a membership led event which has been organised by Kevin McGrother and your membership team will be able to give you more information about this exciting event.
  1. Launch of 24/7 – So How You Can Get Involved On Wednesday 24th July 2013 colleagues across The whole Co-operative Group are being asked to take part in our exciting, UK wide Charity of the Year fundraising day. 24/7 is about more than just fundraising; it aims to highlight the 24 hour, seven day a week nature of caring that carers face every day. We’re aiming to raise at least £247,000 on this one day alone, and every section of business is invited to take part. Please ask your stores to get in touch and let me know what they are up to. They can also tweet photos to @carerstweets and email them to toakshott@carers.org

Ideas – Why not do a time themed event to link into 24/7? Or do a 24 hour challenge? Get staff to cycle 247 miles on an exercise bike in store…shave 24 heads in one day…sit in a bath of beans for 247 minutes…The possibilities are endless! Anything that incorporates the numbers 24 / 7!

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If you would like to get involved with supporting carers Trust this year please do let us know.

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How we can support the co-operative with fundraising this year.  Your regional fundraiser is Terrie Oakshott  (contact details on slide) and there is a team of charity ambassadors across the region from many local carers’ centres who may be able to provide support at a more local level.  There is also dual branded charity merchandise available for any branch or staff to order. Merchandise is free and available via a telephone hotline or this order form…

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How to order…

Slide 14 / Slide 15 – Project Intro / Project Slide

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Fundraising will support a variety of key projects under the “About time” umbrella. The Charity of the Year partnership strongly supports Co-operative’s commitment to Inspiring Young People, a key part of its ethical plan, and is expected to reach and transform the lives of 20,000 young adult carers.

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There are 5 core strands to “about time” starting with the “Time to be noticed” campaign, designed to improve national awareness of young adult carers, what they do and the issues they face. “Time out” will provide respite breaks to give young adult carers the breathing space to focus on themselves and their ambitions. “Time for Change” will set up 50 major new projects across the UK, offering tailored support and services in areas such as education, training, careers and health. ”Time to connect” will provide a new on-line support website where young adult carers can seek advice and connect with others in a similar situation. Finally, “Time to be heard” is a programme of events designed to  give young adult carers the opportunity to engage with opinion formers and policy makers so that they can develop the skills and confidence to make their voices heard.

Slide 16 – Thank You

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Thank you for your time today – please feel free to ask me any questions you may have

You can do this by leaving a comment

Carers and Stress and Depression


We are told that the CEO s of the Big Banks get paid the big money as they have to make the big decisions. We we know from experience that they didn’t always get them right.

This isn’t a rant about the bankers it’s about the tough decisions we as carers make every day.  The stress of looking after someone 24/7 figures show that Carers are twice as likely to suffer from Depression. I myself suffer from Clinical  Depression I have to take Anti Depressants and still have days when I am very down. I find these days are more likely to happen when I feel I am getting nowhere particularly in relation to  Claire s health and battling the powers that be to get help, where is am labelled a bully for speaking up for my wife or indeed on days where I know that Claire’s pain is bad and I feel powerless to help. This is when I must fight the most I must not turn to the “Dark Side” but it is hard the Anti Depressants help with the chemical in balance but the mood trigger can still be there which is like being kicked in the teeth emotionally.

Now I know I am not the only carer going through this but these are the times you need friends and help from Carers organisations the most. You have to know when you need help there is no stigma to Depression and Stress. I try to do what I can for the See Me charity which campaigns against the stigma of Mental Health. It only amounts to getting posters and leaflets for the Schools and GP Surgeries but if that points at least one person in the right direction of help then I have done something.  Remember there are people to help.

A Message to end Carers Week


This is a Message from my Wife Claire she wanted to share to end Carers Week

“You May Not Believe This But I Count Myself Lucky !

Yes I suffer massive pain, take countless medications, am a prisoner in my own home but I still count myself lucky. I look around at everything that is happening around the world and I could be in many situations that are worse than the situation I am in.

I could live in Syria and be surrounded by civil war; never knowing what is happening day-to-day.

I could be one of our many soldiers or civilian workers in Afghanistan.

I could be living in Iraq, amidst countless car bombings and suicide bombers.

I could be a homeless person anywhere around the world, never knowing when or if I would eat that day or get lucky and get a place overnight in a shelter.

But I am none of those things, I am a person who needs twenty-four hour care and am lucky that my husband gave up his job to become my full-time carer and am lucky that all my children at one point have been young carers for me, at this moment our youngest daughter is filling this post.

I never ever wanted to be this ill and requiring care but I am, and I am extremely lucky.

As Carer’s Week draws to a close, I would like to thank my husband and children but also every unpaid carer whether they are young carers or a full-time carer. We are all lucky and extremely grateful to have you and the outstanding care you give.”

My Journey


Today we have a Guest Blogger Ailsa Tweedie

“In the last few days I’ve just come back from London after a successful meeting with the National Union of Students on a piece of research into student carers that they plan to launch later this summer that I have been a part of. However it was my journey before NUS; one that began at the mere age of eight years old that I’m going to be writing about as guest blogger.

I was never officially identified by my local authority as a young carer until I was in third year of secondary school; which meant that I was never accessing any support from a young carers project until I was thirteen years old. At this point I had already been forced to grow up far too quickly, become independent and already had part of my childhood robbed.

In all honesty upon reflection, I wish that someone had connected the dots for me sooner. It would have made growing up a lot easier than it was. At a young age I wasn’t able to articulate to my friends what was wrong with my mum and why it meant I needed to help look after her. Being a young carer also meant that I had to hear sensitive and sometimes upsetting news about my mum’s condition with no one to talk to about it, as I’m an only child.

I’m often asked by people when sharing my experiences of being a carer if I had ever been given the choice between being a young carer and a normal young person; what would I have chosen?

At the moment at the age of twenty-two, it is a question that I am yet to give an honest answer to …”

Young Carers


There is a group of carers who don’t have a very strong voice in the UK they are the young carers perhaps because they are busy caring in-between their School work and trying to have a life.  My Wife and I have 3 Children who have all played their part in the care of Claire. They sit with her and talk which may seem like nothing to some people but to some one who is stuck in the house it is a lot. Just doing the small things that Claire cant do like make a coffee or make a sandwich. Our children have had there life restricted as we have not been on Holiday as a family since Claire has got ill. We do hope to go a Holiday soon. The Young Carers Service funded by local authorities and the NHS is one of the most important services they provide for Carers as far as I am concerned they take young carers out and provide them with someone out of there family and friends to speak to about the extra pressures they have in life.  The young carers Service in The Scottish Borders was put out to Tender by Scottish Borders Council. This resulted in The Local Carer Centre loosing the service all for a couple of hundred pound. There was no legal obligation to put the service out to tender.  As this service is for Kids very few people spoke out. Its difficult to say if the service is better or not without looking at the figures as too how many young carers are helped now and before.  As I feel words are powerful here is me standing up for Young Carers at The Scottish Labour Party Conference in 2012